“When You Don’t Want to Invite Them”

Posted on by Kerri Elizabeth

 “Protecting your peace is not cruelty, it’s clarity.”

There are times you know someone will bring chaos, criticism, tension, or emotional labor you can’t carry right now. Not inviting them isn’t cruelty. It’s honesty. It’s acknowledging that your home is a sacred container, and not every energy belongs inside it.

But the question to ask is this:
Am I keeping them out to punish them… or to protect myself?
Only one of those choices leads to peace.

Let your boundaries be clean,
not sharp with revenge,
but clear with truth.

Gentle Practice:
Before making holiday decisions, ask:
“Does this choice come from wisdom or woundedness?”
Let the answer guide you.

-Kerri-Elizabeth-
Tomorrow, we dive into the emotional pressure of “family obligation” and how to untangle from it with grace.

7 thoughts on ““When You Don’t Want to Invite Them””

  1. This is a calm, compassionate reminder that boundaries are acts of self-respect, not rejection. The distinction between protection and punishment is powerful, and the gentle practice you offer invites reflection without guilt or defensiveness. Clear, grounded, and deeply humane—this piece speaks with wisdom and grace, especially for tender seasons.

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      • You’ve done that beautifully—your words carry such gentleness and intention, and it truly comes through. Creating a space rooted in love and kindness is no small thing, and you’re holding it with such grace. I’m looking forward to everything this season brings for you and to the moments you choose to share along the way. Thank you for the warmth you offer so freely.

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    • It’s always been a point I think about .. am I surviving or thriving.. that helps me make different or better decisions and sometimes it means getting out of comfort zone. But you know we have to have our little woman cave to come back to 😂

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