emotional maturity

When They Walk Away

Posted on by Kerri Elizabeth

“We do not own anyone’s choice.”

There are moments
when someone decides you are no longer part of their life.

They may blame you.
They may rewrite the story, their way.
They may never return and you may not be ready to accept the return if it comes.

You may want to fix it at times.

Time does not always allow resolution for everyone, it carries a different impact for each individual.

Resolution comes in many forms but requires a synchronisity.

Boundaries dont disappear with resolutions, but they can widen when respected and honored as such.

You cannot force someone
into awareness, healing or readiness.

Their leaving is their process.

Even when it hurts.

You are allowed to grieve it
without chasing it, even if it takes a lifetime.

You are allowed to honor your truth
without defending it, just live it.

We do not own others process or soverienty.
We only our own.

-Kerri-Elizabeth-

Tomorrow: The strength of standing firm.

You Are Not Your Worst Moment

Posted on by Kerri Elizabeth

“A mistake is an event, not an identity.”

There are moments we wish we could undo.

Words spoken too quickly.
Decisions made in fear.
Silence held too long.

But growth is rarely graceful.

It is awkward.
Messy.
Human.

You are not defined by the moment you stumbled.

Definition is your awareness you gain through it.

Scars are not proof of failure.
They are proof of becoming.

And everyone in every conflict
is growing in ways unseen.

Give yourself the grace
you so easily extend to others.

-Kerri-Elizabeth-

Tomorrow: When distance is not rejection, but protection.

The Quiet Courage of Saying No

Posted on by Kerri Elizabeth

“No is not rejection, it is protection.”

There comes a moment
when you feel it in your body.

The tightening.
The hesitation.
The knowing.

And still… you consider saying yes even when your body screams “NO”.

Because you love them.
Because you don’t want to disappoint them.
Because you fear the distance that might follow.

But every yes that betrays your inner truth
leaves a fracture inside you, now a bigger disapointment.

No doesn’t mean you don’t care.
It means you’re listening.

Listening to your limits.
Listening to your health.
Listening to the quiet wisdom that says,
“This is not good for me.”

Some people will understand.
Some will most definetly not, at least in that moment.

Let them feel what they feel, its their process.

Your responsibility is not to manage their comfort or process.
It is to honor your own integrity and that looks different the older you get.

No can be soft.
No can be kind.
No can be steady.

And when it comes from truth,
it carries peace, even if it creates distance.

-Kerri-Elizabeth-

Tomorrow: Why allowing others to be uncomfortable may be the most loving thing you ever do.