“Some clarity arrives only after we stop trying to force it.”
There is a quiet pressure always near by.
A pressure to decide.
To fix.
To respond.
To resolve.
Immediately!
We are taught that clarity must arrive on command and that conversations must end in solutions. That disagreements must be settled and distance must be repaired. That tension must be smoothed over as quickly as possible.
But growth does not move at the speed of urgency.
Growth moves at the speed of integration.
Sometimes we push because we are uncomfortable in the unknown.
Sometimes we push because we want relief.
Sometimes we push because we believe if we just say it better, louder, clearer, someone else will finally understand.
But pushing where pushing does not belong creates fracture.
Each person stands in a different landscape of experience, different age, different wisdom, different wounds, different capacity. We do not grow in unison. We do not awaken on the same timeline. We do not process at the same depth.
And sometimes the most sovereign thing we can do…
is stop pushing.
Not because we dont care, but instead to respect pace.
There are moments when forcing clarity only creates more fog.
There are moments when allowing space is the most loving response.
Not every discomfort needs immediate resolution.
Not every silence is abandonment.
Not every distance is failure.
Sometimes space is simply growth happening invisibly.
Sovereignty begins the moment you accept that you cannot control someone else’s timeline.
You can only honor your own.
You can only guard your own home, your body, your nervous system, your energy and your boundaries.
Sometimes that means allowing another person to be uncomfortable while you remain steady.
Clarity comes in time for many.
Rarely does it show up on demand.
-Kerri-Elizabeth–
Tomorrow: The quiet courage it takes to say no, even when love is involved.
SONSHINE FOR YOU 
And this need for immediacy seems to be getting worse. Maggie
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It definitely is… I’m learning to take a breathe more often, a pause before I do anything now days, that sometimes leads me to not doing it or finding the importance was only a reaction and not a response. It’s showing me a lot, but so hard when anyone around you thinks they need you or a response immediately and have no idea that I need a pause to respond correctly.. makes me wonder how many reactions run people’s day and at the end of it how many times they wish they would have paused and processed and not rushed it.
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And then, you want to avoid them in the future. At least, I do.
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Me too!!!!
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I loved these words of wisdom – “Each person stands in a different landscape of experience, different age, different wisdom, different wounds, different capacity. We do not grow in unison. We do not awaken on the same timeline. We do not process at the same depth.
And sometimes the most sovereign thing we can do…
is stop pushing.”
And that photo is gorgeous
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Thank you so much , I actually just took that one last week on a hike w my grandson and mom. It was an interesting weather day, I was hoping to catch the rain while it was sun-shining at the same time but instead it showed a different perspective.
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It was certainly a profound thought that made my day.
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Your post really spoke to me, Kerri. I had some challenges last week that this reminded me of. I was pushing and trying to solve an uncomfortable situation, when I really only needed to allow for time and space. Thank you for this profound reminder!
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You’re so welcome I’m glad it resonated with you, I wrote to myself as well, … these are all being lived , experienced and appreciated, sometimes I forget and get a little snag in my path and then I write.. ✍️ like you sing!!!! What a beautiful gift of healing. For us.
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