gratitude

“When Together Isn’t the Same Anymore”

Posted on by Kerri Elizabeth

“Togetherness changes shape when life changes everyone inside it.

Holidays rarely stay the same forever.
People grow, shift, return, leave, rebuild, repair, or unravel.
Sometimes the table expands, and sometimes it contracts.
And sometimes, the meaning of “being together” evolves into something quieter, smaller, or entirely different.

There is no failure in this.
Just the natural reshaping of family as life stretches everyone differently.
When togetherness changes, it doesn’t mean love is gone, only that love is learning a new language.

Together isn’t lost,
it’s just becoming
something we haven’t named yet.

Gentle Practice:
Name one thing that has changed, and one thing that hasn’t.
Let both have their place.

-Kerri-Elizabeth-
Tomorrow, we explore the heart of the host, the one who tries to hold everyone without losing themselves.

“Showing Up From Strength, Not Reaction”

Posted on by Kerri Elizabeth

“Your presence is a choice, not a compromise.”

Whether you attend a holiday event or stay home, make sure the choice comes from your center, not your wounds.
Show up because you want to, not because you’re proving something.
Stay home because you need peace, not because you’re punishing anyone.

Your emotional placement matters more than your physical placement.
Strength isn’t pretending everything is fine, it’s knowing how to enter a space without abandoning yourself.

When you show up whole,
even silence becomes love.

Gentle Practice:
Today, ask yourself one honest question:
“What version of me is making this decision, my healed self or my hurt self?”

-Kerri-Elizabeth-
Tomorrow begins Week Three, Redefining Togetherness as we move closer to Christmas.

“Choosing Space as Growth, Not Punishment”

Posted on by Kerri Elizabeth

“Space heals what pressure destroys.”

Distance becomes harmful only when fueled by bitterness.
But when chosen with clarity, space becomes medicine.
A reset.
A pause.
A boundary that protects both hearts.

Choosing space doesn’t mean you’re done loving.
It means you’re done bleeding.
It means you are choosing to evolve without forcing someone else to evolve beside you.

Space isn’t an ending,
it’s soil.
What grows from it
is entirely new.

Gentle Practice:
Take one minute and imagine space around your heart, light, breathable, warm.
Let yourself expand into it.

-Kerri-Elizabeth-
Tomorrow, we complete Week Two by exploring how to enter gatherings (or solitude) from a place of strength rather than reaction.

“When the Apology Never Comes”

Posted on by Kerri Elizabeth

“Closure is not something they give you, it’s something you decide.”

Some people will never say “I’m sorry.”
Not because you weren’t hurt,
but because we see ourselves and others differently when hurt is presented.

Stop waiting for their words to free you.
Your healing is not dependent on their accountability, only yours.
It’s dependent on your courage to release the story that keeps you small.

Your heart deserves peace
that doesn’t rely
on someone else’s awakening.

Gentle Practice:
Close your eyes and say:
“The closure I needed is the peace I choose.”

-Kerri-Elizabeth-
Tomorrow we explore choosing space, not out of resentment, but out of emotional maturity.

“Forgiveness Without Return”

Posted on by Kerri Elizabeth

“Forgiveness frees you, not the relationship.”

Forgiveness is not a reunion.
It does not guarantee closeness.
It does not erase history.
Forgiveness simply removes the emotional bondage that keeps your heart tied to what hurt you.

You can forgive someone and still never speak to them again.
You can release resentment without reopening the door.
You can find peace without forcing connection.
Your heart can soften without losing its discernment.

Let forgiveness be
a warm breath in winter,
gentle, unforced,
expecting nothing in return.

Gentle Practice:
Whisper: “I release you, but I do not return to what harmed me.”

-Kerri-Elizabeth-

Tomorrow: When apologies never come or are expected, how to stop waiting for closure you can give yourself.

“The Myth of Family Obligation”

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 “Being related is not the same as feeling connection”

We grow up in hopes that “family always comes first,”. But loyalty without a connection can feel like betrayal to one self as well as others. Your presence is a gift with our without family connections, as long as you believe it is, don’t take it for granted and remember connection is where we are open to be connected.

Obligation looks backward.
Choice looks forward.
You get to choose how you enter a room, how long you stay, and whether that room is part of where and who you are now. Choice allows us to show up or not and still be our BEST,

You do not have
to prove your love.
Peace is a valid tradition too.

Gentle Practice:
Say this aloud: “I choose presence where I am respected, not required.”

-Kerri-Elizabeth-
Tomorrow, we explore forgiveness without reconciliation.

“When You Don’t Want to Invite Them”

Posted on by Kerri Elizabeth

 “Protecting your peace is not cruelty, it’s clarity.”

There are times you know someone will bring chaos, criticism, tension, or emotional labor you can’t carry right now. Not inviting them isn’t cruelty. It’s honesty. It’s acknowledging that your home is a sacred container, and not every energy belongs inside it.

But the question to ask is this:
Am I keeping them out to punish them… or to protect myself?
Only one of those choices leads to peace.

Let your boundaries be clean,
not sharp with revenge,
but clear with truth.

Gentle Practice:
Before making holiday decisions, ask:
“Does this choice come from wisdom or woundedness?”
Let the answer guide you.

-Kerri-Elizabeth-
Tomorrow, we dive into the emotional pressure of “family obligation” and how to untangle from it with grace.

“The Light Returning Within” (Week One Wrap-Up)

Posted on by Kerri Elizabeth

“You don’t find light, you remember it.”

This first week of December has asked you to soften, breathe, let go, create, renew, and return to yourself. It has reminded you that healing is not loud; it is gradual. It is not forced; it is allowed.

You are not behind.
You are not broken.
You are becoming.
Every breath is part of it.
Every moment you choose peace instead of performance is part of it.
Every new tradition, every walk, every small joy is part of it.

Let the inner light return gently,
not as a blaze,
but as a candle
that never truly went out.

Gentle practice:
Tonight, whisper gratitude to yourself:
“Thank you for getting me here.”

-Kerri-Elizabeth-
Tomorrow, we begin Week Two: Forgiveness and the softening of emotional weight.

“Gathering With the Ones Who Feel Like Warmth”

Posted on by Kerri Elizabeth

“Togetherness is not about places and people you think you should be with, it’s about resonance.”

Some people add warmth to your life simply by being who they are.
They listen.
They don’t demand.
They don’t rush you.
They accept you exactly as you show up that day.

Invite those people into your winter, even if they aren’t family.
Even if it’s one friend.
Even if it’s someone you’ve only recently met.
Let resonance replace obligation.
Let closeness be chosen, not performed.

Gather with kindness.
Gather with ease.
Let only gentle hearts
sit near your fire.

Gentle practice:
Message someone who makes you feel lighter.
Just one sentence: “Thinking of you today.”

-Kerri-Elizabeth-
Tomorrow, we’ll close Week One with a return to self, your inner light rekindling.

“The Beauty of Alone Time Without Loneliness”

Posted on by Kerri Elizabeth

“Being alone is an art, and it deserves attention.”

Solitude in December feels different.
It’s deeper.
Quieter.
More reflective.

Being alone doesn’t mean you’re unloved.
It means you’re learning to hear yourself.
It means you’re learning to enjoy your own company.
It means you’re creating a home inside yourself that no one can take away.

Sit with yourself kindly.
Let silence become a friend.
You are more whole
than you’ve ever realized.

Gentle practice:
Do one small thing alone today that feels nourishing:
tea, a walk, a bath, a song, a journal page.

-Kerri-Elizabeth-
Tomorrow, we’ll talk about chosen togetherness, the kind that doesn’t drain.